my wife recently flipped out on a plane ride alt at good mythical morning thank you for joining us today just just just chill out this is gonna be fine don’t no need to get anxious don’t wig out on us that’s a little that’s a little you’ve met premonition or what’s gonna happen you made me get nervous when you said that really you incited anxiety into me well I think we can explore the nature of that over 25 million Americans if you’re not American even better you probably still experience the same thing that is a fear of flying second only to fear public speaking in terms of just the proclivity of people being fearful of it there are um the second most common fear is fear of flying next to public speaking I’m not prepared to go that far but that is what I just said what about public speaking while flying the pilot does that every time oh man that that’s why he gets paid so much yes that’s why there’s so much school there pilots have to go to more school than medical doctors that’s probably not true either yeah but I mean odds are I’m speaking to some of you out there who are afraid of flying if my wife is watching Christy as you as you know you don’t want you to fly so let me let me just relay an experience that I had coming back from the holidays we traveled by plane oh I did too it’s a it’s a wide country I prefer to cross it in a plane just get it over with we took a direct flight I mean we’re bringing three kids with us everywhere we travel I want to get it over with as quickly as possible and I’m not afraid of flying in the least but my wife is with me and you know that’s another factor here’s what typically happens we have to sit in the back of the plane because when you have five people want to sit together yes I don’t know if you want to buy the tickets whatever we’re in the back of the plane no it’s alphabetical back no it’s not back of the plane is a horrible place to be if you don’t like turbulence or if you don’t like being near a restroom who was it one of those were their only restroom is in the back it was in this case so like Christy already knew this was not going to be a good trip even though it was a direct flight so it’s one flight instead of two that’s the center line okay what I do and you know this when I get on a flight I just conk out go to sleep I just have the power to just move and then your mouth opens when your mouth opens I know that’s when you’re not faking anymore like and that’s when I start getting strangers to put things in there sometimes I open my mouth in order to make myself fall asleep really I’ve got it under that much of a song I think that’s what you’re onto something there but here’s what happens it happened more than one occasion but it happened again at this particular time I’m asleep and all of a sudden I’m being shut like think like Christy Christy is waking me up and like I’m like kind of mad you know when you being woken up like what and then I see this look in her eye and it’s just it’s like she’s having a near-death experience and she so she says to me I need you to talk to me I’m like what I’m like groggy I don’t know what she wants to connect no she says I’m I think I’m I’m really anxious right now I think I’m on the verge of like a panic attack I’m I just I really need to talk to you right now has this happened before second time has happened so we’re on the world like I’m waking up like couple years to do so I’m like how you doing hey wouldn’t like me to talk about so I’m like what what are you what do you have what are you afraid of what you think the planes gonna crash or something not the plant me thoughts in your head yes I mean honest I I guess I I guess that I was being a jerk so I’m just like and then you were taunting her no I wasn’t telling her I was just trying to make light of it in order to make her feel a bit better but that didn’t work like actually mentioning plane crash didn’t work her eyes got bigger I could see that she was sweating oh really this is bad and um I didn’t know this happened I know she didn’t like it I didn’t know it would manifest itself in the flow or reaction and she was like do you feel that I’m like yeah I mean it’s just a little turbulence just kind of go with it open your mouth maybe you’ll fall asleep and then then she threw up well ooh into the bag no she got up and went to the bathroom which was right around the bend we’re in the last seaside boop boop she all of a sudden she gets up and then I’m like she comes back she’s like I threw up you couldn’t you couldn’t hear it though no I can hear it it wasn’t like heaving and heaving like she was ready it’s just like happened and I heard the flush the flush is really loud I don’t think I could even throw up in could you think about when I go into one of those restaurants I can’t sit down because they’re so tiny I can’t fold myself so if I went into the thing I would just be like a waterfall that’s why they had the bags clear my shook my head out a little bit to get it again so she comes back and she says back down I’m like do you feel better and I’m like oh she’s oh she’s Archaea sleepy ya know your audience no but she said I feel a little bit better and like I I just started talking to her I like took her mind off a talk about something else but I feel like I was very inadequate in my I mean yeah I mentioned the crash but even beyond that I was inadequate my ability to help her deal with her fear of flying so I mean I started looking into it you but did you joke a little bit I yeah only reason I asked that yeah I joked about the point I was like what do you think it’s not like the planes gonna crash I did this I told you the story before but I did my mother-in-law has a really large fear of flying we were on a Puddle Jumper but she she was in plane crash and she was in a plane crash so she has a legitimate fear right and she was really scared we were in this little plane and I started joking with her and she scratched my face like she was she she was behind this huge behind my wife and I were here and then my mother-in-law and the seats behind us and then I was like everything is gonna be okay I mean this plane is like the size of a boat or you know it is and then she could she went tried to like and she little Marines she was out of control and she has long finger does anyone right so I had to scratch the whole week oh and you deserve it and you know what I deserved it Christy should have should have scratched me but I think she was so discombobulated that she couldn’t do it but upon reflection I think we all recognize that I deserve to be better and that’s why I did some research you know I mean there’s some common things besides just going to taking xanax that you can do that maybe are are better than that like first of all a lot of the reading I did said you got a pinpoint what’s your what’s your fearful about so you can address it there’s plenty of things you can be scared about she doesn’t like being closed up she doesn’t like thinking about crashing losing control is very maddening for her and they were actually mercy of other people and other machinery but they also say educate yourself if you know the facts that you know Timmy read the safety book one in ten million died in a plane crash versus one in like five thousand in a car crash but that doesn’t really help I mean after that it’s okay bring a picture or have a picture on your phone of your destination so you can think about it they say to do that they say to breathe deeply and then watch a movie or read a book that you’re already involved in something you know things that are pretty obvious but the one thing that I found that I think is great is if the rubberband technique this one guy in a blog I found said that he wears a rubber band and then whenever he feels a panic attack coming on or something like that he will pop himself with a rubber band and if you is if you snap it against your skin apparently the reality bite will take your mind off of the turbulence will take your mind off of whatever it is if you’re fixating on and give you this pain that you can focus on so once okay this is work from now on I am going to when my wife wakes me up and she’s having a panic attack I’m going to shoot her with rubber bands I don’t think that’s going to go well I did it was in a blog I don’t like that training yourself punishing yourself a little rubber bands it seems kind of gimmicky yes like well obviously not going to shoot rubber bands I can’t take somebody seriously unless you want sitting on a plane going it seems like you got some weird yeah kind of I’d rather be entertaining eating crazy you know yeah alright you know what time it is I’m Stephanie from Broken Arrow Oklahoma and I’m Brooke from Batesville Arkansas happy new year it’s time to spin the wheel of mythicality I’m glad your wife was not on the plane that we took from California North Carolina I will tell you what happened on my plane in good mythical more quite store okay we got another ear biscuits coming out later today as you know our audio only podcast when we talk to somebody interesting from the internet this week Michael Stevens from Vsauce oh really yeah I mean the guy from Vsauce great conversation you really get to know him as a person iTunes stitcher SoundCloud look for the links see a ghost huh yeah what a great episode Rhett well I’m just gonna bask in this you know okay what do you feel did did you see that do you feel that they disappeared I feel like I saw stuff look back at me oh there he is again what he is what it’s look like every time you turn around he disappears I thought I was he knows but I think I’m just seeing you what every time I turn this way I disappear your face goes away yeah when you turn at me turn at me there you are ladies and gentlemen my co-pilot George’s three sheets to the wind I’m gonna be doing this one solo if anything happens to me if you have any flying experience