that’s the sound of grass eating sunlight we should make a horror movie called grass haha okay it’s a documentary so I went through situations and settings where you need to determine your optimum those rules were very well thought out um but the one thing anything I don’t know how you came out with that well but good practice this with your wife it’s true it just you say hey baby how close do we stand of each other huh let me bed now my name is there it is um what we didn’t get to was the close talker before you get into that do you know a Sally do I know a Sally like from Sally Draper do you know a female that you have been in contact with in any any form you went to see Miss Ali Ali you want any any port you ever sell more you remember Sally Mally more there was a Shelley Moore in grade school there was a Sally more really she was much older I don’t remember that Sally if I had another child and there was a girl you went to church with our neighbors Sally don’t you know you wouldn’t really yeah it’s like very cool retro hey Sally well you must not remember selling more just kidding she was a nice enough person to name your daughter after Sally your brothers was Andy Moore Andy Moore’s sister yes Sally Maury you are Shaima um whoops thank you on the microphone okay here’s the deal um that actually induced a burp are you okay with that yeah oh oh and you’re about to make it um are you okay with that good here we go guys close talkers uh made famous in an episode of Seinfeld I believe out of it heard of a genius show I was addicted to it it’s a problem I don’t I don’t remember who the close talker was but it or any of the details of the episode it does anyone you remember the close talker episode right Elaine’s boyfriend you’re fired I don’t remember who it was um no it’s fine Eddie thanks for trying one side another little burp there okay um okay I’m a move on since you don’t know nobody knows can we just press on it really doesn’t matter but you really do Raylan he was a close talker he was right he would the plane’s boyfriend the point is that there are people in real life who just don’t have a grasp of personal space and if you’re like at a mingle party or something about hi what kind of drink do you have there I know these are no people and if people like that this is not necessarily a rule but I think what you have to do is you have to be ready ahead of time because this is an awkward moment to deal with any awkward moment you have to have made a decision ahead of time what you’re going to do and then you have to be resolved to do it in that instance and in this one it’s just so simple as would you mind giving me a little space and you can say it in any way you want if you don’t like the person you can say it like that if you like it hey would you mind giving me a little space um I I I think you’ve got to you they need to be taught a lesson I don’t disagree lightly somebody needs to tell em right well let’s be realistic here this is what this would be effective anyway definitely stop the behavior and it would probably stop the behavior not only with with you but with other people if this person was doing this with multiple people but I think this is the kind of advice that most people can’t follow I think you’ve got to come up with something else it’s like a physical fake out you know like if you get close to me and I’m like or something like like give him a like Dennis Rodman elbow yeah I don’t get close if you get close and I’m like and I’m like doing my hair oh sorry sorry sorry really this dude fixes his hair in the middle of a conversation and then you’re the weird one what is he doing fixing his hair and elbowing me you got to do something that was actually remarkably effective like this like get close to me it’s just like you’re talking under something I got something on my face oh thanks push you away well that’s that seems that seems more force but I’d legitimately in order to do this I have to do that it’s like velcro man your face is like though I feel like I get it’s like it’s it sticks to it it really gets on the rock just double totally see that yeah but look at that is it oh I really think that’s for the people who are afraid it confronts the most talk our uppercut just fix your hair I mean that’s I mean it gets this establishes some pretty night look at those elbows you’ve noticed before if you’ve ever watched the show and I’ll explain you could do you you could do like that to clear out coffee drinking like you’re you know you’re at a mingle party like let’s see that’s a natural that’s a little nothing I’ve proven the does not off-limits yeah okay I but the thing is you’re taking it on the chin I mean you’re giving it to someone on the chin but you’re the one who looks like the idiot that doesn’t seem fighting no more and they’re the one in the wrong they’re not being considerate the more interesting question is a nice there’s a nice cordial way to say listen you’re being inconsiderate and I and I encourage that to anyone who feels like they have the gumption to say something like that to somebody because I do believe that there are some things it should be addressed but if you can’t do that just fix your hair and hit me to hit him with your elbow now the more interesting question is why do people do this yeah what what is going to the close talkers mind and nothing do they know that there are close to order no but you have to make a decision at some point in your life that I’m going to get this close to people that I thought they could be hard of hearing they could have a certain brain makeup that makes them not sensitive to people’s personal space might have had a person’s perception issues depth perception oh we’re making this about me scuse me said what you talk really loud sometimes you can’t hear if those little wings I know I think I do think I have a hearing problem no I could see that you were doing something but so yeah if you have a hearing problem um I don’t want you get it checked out I don’t mind that but I don’t think that’s what’s going on at all I think it’s just it’s a social disconnect everybody the bring everyone has and it’s not their fault like this inner calibration to kind of know when they are doing something that seems normal and there’s people on both ends of the spectrum somewhere there’s a person that won’t get close won’t get close enough to you somewhere there’s somebody’s like why is that guy so far from me is it something wrong with me that there’s a far talker out there you know it’s inevitable that there’s a far talker far talker farmer I’m a fart talker I because I fart when I talk and I get further far away from people so like it smells shameless really how you do it sometimes middle fart man so those so we’ve given you two options go abroad an uppercut