EB 187: How Do We Deal With Sadness?

(upbeat electronic music) – Welcome to Ear Biscuits, I’m Rhett. – And I’m Link. This week at the round table of dim lighting, we’re asking the questions that you ask us and then we’re answering them because anything goes. Yeah, we’ve opened up the floodgates and– – The questions just rolled right in. Anything, anything at all we’re going to answer. – Well we’re gonna, the ones that we picked. – We’re answering, ask us anything, we’ll answer some. – But the way we pick these things is very loose, it’s like– – So loose. – You’re like oh I picked some, I picked some, and then we don’t discuss it ahead of time. I don’t know, I don’t even know my answers honestly. – [Rhett] Yeah yeah yeah. – I’m kinda like well maybe something will come to me for a lot of these. – But before we do that, we will let you know that we’re both about to head out on– – You givin’ ’em a warning? – Spring breaks. – I’m excited. At the end of this recording session, I’m on vacation. – Oh, you gettin’ a little bit of a early start. – That’s right. – You didn’t, we didn’t consult on this, however, you are going international so you have travel, two travel days. I just flipped you the bird. I didn’t it’s just a peace sign backwards. – Are you comin’ in, you comin’ in to work tomorrow? – I’m comin’ in hot. – You comin’ into work tomorrow? – I’m not coming in, well I don’t know. – We didn’t consult this, I need you to come in if I’m not gonna be here. – I will be working tomorrow if that’s– – Oh I’ll be working, I’ll be thinking about things. – If that’s your question, just whether or not I’m here, but you know what. – You know what, don’t work. – No those day when you’re– – Don’t work. – When you’re not here and I feel like I got this big old office to myself, it’s pretty nice. I play all the music that I want as loud as I want. I fart openly. – Nothing– – Lots of things happen in there when you’re not present. – You haven’t said anything that you don’t do anyway. (Rhett laughs) We had a meeting right before this– – That is true. – Right before this recording session, we had a meeting which was proceeded by us working at our desks independently for about two hours, and they come in to the meeting and then Jacob was like, it smells funny in here. – That wasn’t farts. – You know the first thing I thought. Well we been fartin’ in here. – Well we’ve been playing a game of fart tennis. That does– – Our desk space– – That does happen. – We face back to back and I don’t know, yeah we just have a fartversation. (laughs) The fart that you ripped yesterday, it sounded like you were squooshing something. – (chuckles) It’s that chair, man. It’s the acoustic quality of that chair that I sit in. It’s almost a musical instrument the way it propels it out into the middle of the room. I think it’s designed, I think that is a design to shoot your farts out, the sound of your farts out into the middle of the room. – Fart shoot and share. (Rhett laughs) And so it’ll be like an hour of– – Farticello. – You play the music you wanna play. – Fartihorn. – Rhett plays this– – Fartinet, fartinet. – Rhett plays this, I don’t know it’s like concentration music. – No no no no no. – It’s got some beats in it. – No it’s lofi 24/7, which if you just Google lofi 24/7, there’s a few YouTube channels and this is a Mythical Beast suggestion back when I– – Is this a rec? – This was a rec to me from the Mythical Beasts. I’ve talked about it on the show before I think ’cause I was like, what’s some good writin’ music because I don’t like lyrics in my music when I’m writing ’cause I start just writing the lyrics. – Speaking of recommendations, something I’ve been meaning to do but haven’t done for many episodes now is say that hey, if you listen to the end of an Ear Biscuit, we are now doing a recommendation. – Oh you already know that though ’cause you’re not the kinds of people that stop listening before the end. – So listen to the end and we’re alternating episodes throwing out a recommendation, it’s a Recs in Effect, but anyway– – We’re heading out. – I’m still on the fart story. – Okay. – You’re playing the music which it’s not like you don’t play what you wanna play with me there, you play the music. – Lofi 24/7, yeah. – And then we’re like– – It’s streams. – It’s kinda quiet. – Yeah. – Actually yesterday there wasn’t any music because all of a sudden it was just butt music from you and I just, we hadn’t talked for an hour and we’re just sittin’ there working on stuff. – You gotta mix things up sometimes. – Just kinda, we started laughing. It was very– – Farts are funny. – Third grade again. – We’ve established that, we’ve established that. Farts are funny and if you don’t think so, something’s wrong with you. – My abdomen is cramping hard and I might have to add some music to the mix. I’m in pain right now. – But it might be negative pressure, it might not be positive pressure. – Anyway so when Jacob came in and he was like, it smells like something’s rotting in here. – And then Josh said it smells like cruciferous vegetables. He was right because there was cabbage inside the dish that you had sealed up. – And I’d put in the trash can so it wasn’t our farts and I was glad that we didn’t say, well we’ve been fartin’ it up for the past two hours. – Yeah. – It’s my office. – Anyway, we are heading out. I’m doing another ski trip, you’re doing another Londony trip. – And by Londony trip, I’m going to– – Going to London, you’re not just going to London, North Carolina, there probably isn’t one. – Yeah for Lily’s 16th birthday we’re taking her wherever she wanted to go. We had this grand idea that now we’re gonna have to do for the other children. I don’t know, if the bottom falls out. Yeah, or YouTube shuts down and our entire, our entire financial ecosystem crumbles and then I’ll be asking my 16 year old son to house me. – Oh that’s quite a turn around. – Yeah. Hopefully it doesn’t happen. – You lookin’ forward to it? – The financial crumble of my– (Rhett sputters) Yeah so she wanted to go to London. We’re gonna do the Harry Potter stuff. I’m sure I’ll give you a full rundown on the back end but having had our complete London rundown, my expectations are primed and I know, I know how I’m gonna approach it. – Dinner every night at Slug and Lettuce. – The food aspect of it and stuff like that. Yeah I’m very excited, I think it’s gonna be a very special, it’s designed to be a special memory forming occasion for us with just Lily, with the boys not being there. – Lots of mental pictures. And lots of actual pictures. – Yeah man. No injuries, no snow, no mountains, no… Be safe, man. – But I heard tell that your wife is, she’s a little anxious because these planes have been falling out of the sky all over the world and she’s gotta now get in one and go across the ocean. – Well we’re not on that plane and that plane’s been grounded– – That plane’s been grounded but planes– – We’re not on that plane. – But planes. – She has a borderline phobia. – Right and it’s like and this is in the news and she’s taking that in. – She’s had a difficult week. – What’s your plan? – She’s had a difficult week. – Massage? Take a massage tool. – Hand holding. I guess try not to sleep. – Poetry? – I’m trying not to sleep until she sleeps. – That’s not gonna happen. – That’s gonna be difficult because that mouth is gonna flop open, I’m gonna be gone. – She’s not gonna sleep and you’re gonna sleep immediately. Like literally, I was thinking about this on our last trip. This is why I always snap pictures of you, regardless of how long the flight is, is that, every single time we get on the plane and then they start the beverage service or if there’s a meal involved. – Yeah. – You sleep through that part. ‘Cause typically that’s like, we’ve reached 10,000, whatever the feet is, 10,000 feet. And now the wifi is working and we’re kinda leveling out and they’re starting to bring the beverages out, you’re gone and so last time we were flying, I woke you up ’cause I was like this can’t happen again. Now one time you laid down and put the sleep mask on and slept right through the thing and then you wake up and you’re like, is there dinner? (chuckles) It was like seven hours into the flight. And they were like, uh, well, not anymore. – Something about gettin’ in the air makes me sleepy. – So you gotta take a Red Bull. You gotta do a Red Bull before you get on the plane if you don’t wanna fall asleep. I do wanna fall asleep but I’m gonna try to stay awake for Christy. I mean she’s got, she’s been given some meditation, guided meditations that she can go through for like some positive-oriented, some like, well they’re all positive-oriented. – Some very negative. – Some focused on like– – The sound of screaming people. (chuckles) – Planes crashing, careening out of the sky. – This is what could be happening right now. But it’s not. – Actual audio from– – I wonder if that would work. – From failed water landings. (chuckles) – Certain people might be into that. – I’m sure there are. – ‘Cause sometimes I tell my wife, I’m like, when she’s upset with me I’m like you know, I mean, you know what I could be doing right now, and then I make up a crazy scenario that’s a lot worse than what I am doing. – Oh yeah. – And she’s like, this reasoning doesn’t work. – Yeah that’s called deflecting into the abyss. Usually you deflect to something that’s also concrete. – I could be in prison right now. – Okay. All right. – But I’m not. It’s like that’s not effective. – I could be a murderer. – Right. – I’m not that insensitive. – Yeah, yeah. I could be living a double life. (Link sputters) – I know that’s funny but I also feel like maybe you said that to her. (Rhett laughs) – No, I didn’t say that. – ‘Cause it is kinda funny but you know, you’re like, perspective. – Yeah sometimes you gotta, yeah. We could be crashing right now, we’re not. If everything goes sideways you say that to your wife. – Here’s a simple one to start with. – Why don’t we take a small break and then answer a question? – I’m gonna ask the question and it’ll be like a– – Teaser. – Teaser. – Got it. – SarahA142266095. – Whoa. – Asks– – Whoa. – What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever found the other person doing when you walked into the room? – Uh-oh. – #EarBiscuits. – You’ll get that answer and more in a second. 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Jade is, all of the proceeds go to us and then because we love our dogs so much, they benefit. – That’s right. – So if you want our dogs to continue to eat and be healthy and get their shots and vet visits, you need to buy this merch. – Right, yeah yeah, we will stop giving the dogs their regular scheduled recommended veterinarian things if you do not buy these shirts. (chuckles) They’ll get heart worms is what we’re saying, okay? You don’t want our dogs to have heart worms, buy these shirts. – Oh goodness. – I heard that heart worms don’t really happen anymore. Your dog Tucker died of heart worms. – It definitely happened to him. – And– – I guess because of the medication and stuff, that is squarely our fault. – But our vet– – Felt horrible about that. – Our vet said something about how you don’t have to really worry about those anymore. You can still take it but it’s not really– – Really? – Yeah. Okay. – I give her the medicine. – Strangest thing I’ve seen you doing walking in– – Yeah so we’re answering your questions now. Here it is, we’re getting into it. We’ve made it through the ads. – The thing that this makes me think about is the fact that we have our secret loft, our not so secret loft. Especially if you’re a member of the Mythical Society, you’ve seen that loft in the Mythical addresses. But both of us independently sometimes might get here early and might use the loft for meditative purposes. – Mm-hmm. – There’s a meditation cushion up there. And I’ve walked in and it’s like, I see your car when I get here, vice versa, same thing’s true, you walk in. Lights are on, you know somebody’s in the office and you kinda like settle down into your desk and then I hear… (deeply inhales) – A little nostril flappage. – A little breathing. Now I at least say when you walk in, “I’m here.” (chuckles) – I’m here. – I’m here. – I’m here. – I’m here, I’m meditating. – I’m meditating. – It’s a little weird to walk in on somebody meditating but you can’t see ’em. – Especially– – You just hear ’em breathe. – Especially ’cause we do it nude. – Hmm, hmm, I wasn’t gonna say that. – I’ve never meditated nude. – You should try it. – Weirdest thing I’ve seen you do when I walk in on you is when we’re traveling or like, and then I get up in the morning and you’re down on the floor in your underwear like doing some sort of contortion. I was like dude, you sleep on the floor last night? I was like, it’s like you fell off, you fell out of a skyscraper and splattered on the ground. – I’m practicing my moves. – I’m like good gosh, what happened, man? And then I realized you’re stretching. – Oh gosh. You know what and the funny thing is– – The stretches you do are weird. – Well they’re doctor and physical therapist prescribed. I’ll tell you one thing, they have gotten– – Just in your boxers, it’s just, I don’t wanna see that. – You don’t have to watch. – Well I didn’t watch, I just saw. – Some people would pay to watch. – That’s the weirdest thing that I’ve– – I might start a YouTube channel that’s just called Rhetching which is (chuckles), it’s Rhett and stretching mixed together. It’s not throwing up. ‘Cause it’s spelled R-H-E-T-C-H-I-N-G, Rhetching. Rhett stretching 24/7. It’s a live stream. And I’m listening to 24/7 lofi. Inception. – I think that’s the weirdest thing. I mean– – Hold on but– – You’ve seen me pick my nose, I do that every day probably. – My stretching, I was thinking about this this morning, I was having a conversation with my pilates instructor and it was, I’m spending a lot more time with my stretches and not just my stretches but the rolling on the ball thing. I got a little lacrosse ball and I get it into all the different nooks and crannies of my back and all the places that there are knots. And I have discovered that especially getting ready to go ski for a week I’m like, a lot of times when I get ready to transition in something, I’m about to go on vacation, my back gets tight in anticipation of it, it’s a weird stress thing that happens. You don’t wanna be out there having paid all this money for this ski vacation and then not be able– – Seizing up. – Not be able to ski. So I been rolling my back out. Upper, mid and lower with this ball. – Well that’s a weird– – Every single morning. – That’s a weird thing to walk in on ’cause it just looks like you’re wallowing around on the floor. – And also I’m making noises like (moans). This is what Rhetching, the Rhetching channel would be. It would just be me laying on the ground going (moans). – You probably look like a guy who’s just suffered– (groans) Some sort of injury. – Oh yes yes yes yes yes yes yes. (chuckles) Because it’s good. – You yes yes yes? – Yes because the pain is helping me. The pain is so intense but it’s unraveling, I don’t know how the science works, it’s doing something to the muscle knots, releasing them, making me feel good. Anyway I think this is curing my life right now. – I actually heard that rolling out is now not, it’s not proven to be as effective as active stretching. – It’s not proven to be as effective for recovery, right? Isn’t that true? – I don’t know. Next question. – I’m rolling out for a different reason, I’m rolling out for knots. I’m not rolling out for recovery. – I like the way you work my– – Lavish Lionel. – Booty knot. – Lavish Lionel asks, I was recently asked: when you die, if you were offered to view a top five list of some moments in your life, which list would you choose? Personally I’m learning towards the top five times I was closest to death. Do you say towards or toward? When you write. – Towards. – That is incorrect for– – I don’t write it. I don’t write it, I just say it. – Well what I realized was happening, I was looking at our editor who had gone through the Google docs where we wrote our novel and all the towards had been changed to toward because– – A lot of that. – Towards is the U.K. – Really? – That’s what I say, I always add the S but technically the U.S., which I don’t know why we got so much beef about little things like that. Y’all don’t have an S? – And it’s right, it’s right here, but it’s wrong for there. – And there’s another weird word. Oh, vise-like, okay. Vise-like grip. Okay, vise-like grip is a word, it’s a phrase. – Vise dash like? – That is in the– – Space. – The Lost Causes of Bleak Creek. So how would you spell vise-like? – Well with a dash, vise dash like. – How would you spell vise? – Oh. V-I-C-E. – Wrong! – Yeah. – It’s V-I-S-E in America. A vice in America with a C is like a moral vice, it’s like part of you that’s compromised. – Oh but a tool. – But a tool in America– – Is with an S? – Is with an S and in the U.K. it’s with a C both ways. What is the world coming to? Why do we have so many disagreements? Why can’t we just make a decision– – We have enough for that just to be, I mean you gotta keep standards or the language is just gonna fall into chaos. But let’s get to this question. When you die you are offered to view a top five list. Man, I think that would be… That would be frustrating to only see five moments. That’s a short list. – That’s your complaint? – I mean I would be grateful for seeing anything I guess. – Well which five would you choose? – Like oh I’m still able to see, I’m not nothing. There is an afterlife, so check. That’s a good start, you know. – But what would you– – Oh and now I get to see five things, I wanna see the happiest moments of my life. – But what if it’s all downhill from there? – But then that might make you sad. I actually think his answer’s pretty, Lavish Lionel had a pretty good answer. I wanna see the top five times I was closest to death. – Well I would wanna see the ones I was, my answer was closest to death that I did not realize. – Oh yeah, that’s what I thought was implied and I think he has the best answer ’cause, sorry for taking it, Lavish, but hey props to you. ‘Cause then you’re really grateful, it’s like man, I could have gone five other times. – Yeah. – Turns out I had six lives like a cat. – And the thing is– – Well like a short-changed cat. – And what kinds of things would those be? It wouldn’t be the most obvious things like, you think it would be things like, well there was this one time that you were almost hit by a rig, it would be something like there was this one time where this virus that would have gone into your brain and started eating away at it. – You washed your hands. – You washed your hands at exactly the right time. – You blew your nose. – You sneezed and if you hadn’t have sneezed, you would be dead. – Oh wow. – It would be something like that, or there was a moment in which some little platelet inside one of your veins could have gotten stuck and caused a stroke, I don’t know what causes a stroke. – But it just skated by. – Yeah. And it would be like– – That clot went the wrong direction. – It’d be the most boring video in history, it’d be like, you’re just watching a vein. What am I seeing here, what am I seeing here? Oh the platelet went the other way, you would have died. Closest to death. – But I would still be very grateful to not have died sooner whereas where my initial answer of the happiest moments, that would probably just make me so sentimental and sad. But what you said reminded me of the other night, it’s like you had 30 minutes before it was bedtime, I was like, we could watch one episode of a sitcom but I’m just gonna throw on YouTube and see what’s going on. And there was this trending video that was sports casters getting upset part two and I’m like, this is trending, so it was new and fresh, probably hadn’t seen it and I like– – You watched this as a family? – News but this was me, Lincoln, Lando and Britton. And I started watching that one and it sucked and then Britton was like, you know what you should put on. Close Calls from FailArmy. – Oh gosh this is great. – And then I’m like this sounds like a good idea. Well it wasn’t a good idea because– – Probably make you stressed out. – You’re sitting there and it’s just like a lot of traffic footage of okay, here’s just an intersection– – In Russia. – And all of a sudden you see this motorcycle instead of stopping, he didn’t know how to use the motorcycle and he flips over the handlebars– – And then he just walked away. – And as he flips over and tumbles into the intersection, a car barrels through there and just misses running over the guy. – Close call huh? – It was a close call yeah. I mean the good news is you know everybody makes it ’cause it’s a close call, it’s not like morbid, shouldn’t actually be on YouTube and can’t stay up there– – ‘Cause that feels like it would be rewarding to watch. – Well the cumulative effect of seeing a guy in a cowboy hat with his daughter, lookin’ this, where’s the train, where’s the train and you can look past the guy and see the train is coming and you’re like– – What? – You’re standing– – Coming the wrong way. – On the rail, you’re standing halfway and at the last second he turned ’cause he heard it and got out of the way but it was a close call. – Very close call. – I mean that was disconcerting man. And all types of these things. It just made me think ever since then, if I’m walking on a sidewalk, I’m like, what if I trip? You’ve seen the videos of, there were these two girls walking down the street on the sidewalk and the one girl just like hip checked her friend just to be cute. And the girl falls out into the street and like, a big frickin’ bus comes by and just barely misses running over her noggin. – Close call! – It was a close call. Miraculously timed and miraculously caught on camera. – Miraculously caught. – Yeah man. I was like I gotta turn this off. They weren’t censored either so sometimes with a close call, there’s lots of colorful language that’s used. So watch out for that. – Do you have a rec for later? ‘Cause you made me think of a rec based on what you just said watching something with your family. – Yeah, save your rec. Well if it’s related to this, just give it. – I don’t, my rec’s not– – I have a rec. – My rec’s not worthy of the final rec. – Yeah, give it now. This is a pre Recs in Effect. – Goldbergs. As a family– – The television show? – The television show which incidentally, our own Shayne Topp is a guest star, regular, something, whatever you would say. – Smosh Shayne, yeah. – Yeah. I’ve only watched– – I was in a Thai restaurant last night and they were playing Goldbergs and it old Christy, I was like, see that guy right there, that’s Shayne, he’s in Smosh. – I think that it’s just a good, it takes place, you know the premise, it takes place in the 80s. But it’s just a family being a family and– – I thought it was the 90s actually. – It’s the 80s actually, it’s the 80s. Maybe in some season it goes, I don’t know how many seasons– – It’ll get there. – But it may be in the 90s but you know– – Are you recommending the show or something else? – I’m recommending the show. – Okay. – I’m recommending the show to watch as a family because we sat there as a family and realized how like all these, every member of the family is like a caricature of a mom and a dad but it’s also based on this dude’s life, the creator of the show. Adam Goldberg. – Goldberg. (chuckling) Okay. – But anyway, it was just like, I see how I fall into the dad trope and mom falls in the mom trope, kids fall into the kids trope. Anyway, it’s a rec. – What about near-death experiences made you think of that? – You said you sat down and we have half an hour to watch a sitcom as a family. – Oh, oh. – So I was gonna say that if you’re in the mood for a half hour sitcom, Goldbergs is a rec. Let’s ask another question though. Taco picasso, HighlyEducxted with an X asks, how do you cheer yourself up when you’re feeling sad? #EarBiscuits. – The first thing I think of is music. Music can help snap me out so I can go with some bangers. Gimme that banger playlist. – Give me an example. Miley Cyrus Party in the USA? – Yeah Rhett, that’s it. – Hey, listen to that song and tell me it’s not catchy. – It is a happy, happy song. That song will make you happy. I do not recommend the song Happy ’cause it’s– – It’s too on the nose. – Played out. It’s played out. Party in the USA’s a bit tired but it probably always works. – Yeah it’s not a rec, I’m not making a rec, man. Just making a ref, a reference. – The thing that I do when I’m feeling sad lately is– – You been feeling sad lately? – Actually yeah. Well no. There are times when I feel sad in general. I don’t think more so lately but when I said lately I meant lately I’m trying to not say, oh I feel sad, I’m going to play Party in the USA, but instead, just leaning into it and saying you know what– – Let’s get sadder. – If you feel a little sad, let’s just go ahead and let’s experience the entire wave of that emotion– – Yeah. – Instead of trying to fight it, so, interestingly enough, yesterday morning, coming into work, Spotify will create, based on what you’ve listened to, and I’m sure all of the streaming services do it, they’ll create this automated playlist for you. – The AI, man, yeah. – And I’ve been listening to some more Merle lately, gettin’ back into Merle. Well, there’s a sad part to that too. The other night I was listening to, and I texted you about this, I was listening to Ben Haggard, Merle Haggard’s youngest son who we know and who got us into his concerts who basically enabled us to meet Merle before he passed away a little over a year ago I guess it’s been, maybe longer now. – It’s been two years. – Yeah. And I hadn’t realized even though you told me this that he does some covers on his Instagram, I guess that’s another rec. Follow Ben Haggard on Instagram. Tell him that we sent you. Rhett and Link sent me, big fan, or whatever. He does covers of, he just sits in his intimate space, like his living room or something with this one studio mic and covers lots of stuff but Merle songs. And I did not realize, Christy said, “Hey listen to this, “I saw it on Facebook,” ’cause your mom had posted it. Your mom had posted a Ben Haggard cover of a Merle song and she’s like commenting, he’s friends with Rhett and Link, and she’s like commenting on Facebook about it. It was really cute. And so Christy’s telling me this and she starts playing the song and I’m just listening to it and I was like, well this is Merle. This is actually not Ben, this is just a Merle song that’s being played. But then she showed me the video, I’m like no, this is Ben. – I think he sounds just like Merle. – He can sound, I mean we know Merle Haggard so well that, like all the intracrisities, what’s the word? Intricaties. – Intricitititties. – Yeah, of his vocal delivery. – Intricacies. – Intricrisaty, I can’t say it. – Well intricate is the root word. – Intricate cities. – Intricatacy. – Intricaties. (Rhett chuckles) Is that how you say it? Intricaties. Intricicaties, what is the word? There’s four people in this room and no one else can say it. – Intricaties. – No one wants to try and say it. – Intricaties. – Whatever. (Rhett laughs) Intracicities, that’s not right. I cannot say– – It’s definitely not intricatitties. That’s the one thing that I know it’s not. – Intricatitties. – Intricatitties. – Just the nuances. – He’s got intricatitties you wouldn’t believe it. – Of his, Merle’s vocal delivery he can nail to the point of, here’s what happened. – Tell me what happened. – Once I realized that it was Ben singing, I just sat there and listened to it and my eyes welled up with tears and I started crying. – Yeah, I get that. – I could not, it was as if the ghost of Merle had come back. It was, and you know what, I was just blown away with the wave of emotion and I think I realized at that moment, I don’t think I ever fully mourned the loss of Merle. I didn’t really sit down and listen to the extent that I should have, just go through the mourning of losing this guy, I was telling Britton about it, and he was like yeah when Tom Petty died, I sat in my room and bawled my eyes out. I cried myself to sleep literally and he was like, and it took a long time because I was playing this one song on YouTube and I had to press play every, replay every time it stopped. – And that was also related to the fact that he had never seen him live or something or never met him or, ’cause Britton goes to a bunch of concerts and so not having– – He had never gotten to see him. – Right. – And like, Coach Brandall, my soccer coach in college, I mean in high school, I did not play soccer– – College soccer, whoa. News flash. – He talked about when what’s his name from the Grateful Dead died. He was a Deadhead. – Jerry Garcia? – Jerry Garcia, he lit candles and listened to the music and just bawled his eyes out, and I thought that’s sweet but I would never see myself doing that, and I think– – Now you get it. – I was laying in bed listening to Ben sing Merle and like, I just started crying and then I went on his YouTube page and started looking at the comments and I felt validated that a lot of people were commenting that they were in tears as a mourning exercise. But anyway, all that’s back story to, I started listening to more Merle because I had realized that since his death, I’d kinda been avoiding listening to him. I think just not wanting to go there, but I started listening to him and then Spotify started recommending Merle and other country music people as a certain playlist so I played that on my way into work yesterday morning and somehow, it went from Merle to some Travis Tritt song. ♪ It’s a great day to be alive ♪ – Talking about growing a Fu Manchu, it’s kind of a hokey song but I like Travis. – Good. – Shout out to Travis Tritt. Happy song, and then the next one it played, I looked over– – Intricacies. – Intricacies, that’s what I was saying the whole time. – We wanted some extra syllables in there. – Jenna’s afraid to say it but she spelled it out so that we could read it. You say it. – [Jenna] Intricacies. – Yeah. – Yeah, intricacies. – The freakin’ voice of the AI in Independence Day. – The orb. – You can say of intricacies. – The voice of the orb. – Intricacies. So then I look at the next song and I see it pops up, Diamond Rio. The song was One More Day. – Oh. – Do you remember this song? ♪ One more day ♪ ♪ One more night ♪ – One more sunset, maybe I’d be satisfied. – Yeah. – But then again, I know what it would do, leave me wishing still for one more day with you. And I heard the first chord and I’m like, I immediately reached for the skip. I’m like, I am not doing this. And I reached for it– – Why? – And just as my finger touched the skip forward button, ’cause I wasn’t gonna listen to the Travis Tritt song again. I was gonna go forward, I was like you know what, no. I’m gonna do this. I’m like, in all that bumper to bumper traffic in Glendale, 10 lane highway, listening to it. And it’s basically about if I had one wish granted to me, I would wish to have one more day with the person whose loved one who had apparently passed away. And let me tell you. (Rhett chuckles) I bawled my eyes out. I’ve never, this is, I’ve never done this. – To Diamond Rio. – Like yes, I was crying. – Oh wow. – I was doing that ugly cry where your face shrivels up– – On the way to work? – And I had my like, I had to prop my elbow up and put my hand over my face so it looked like, I mean, my face shriveled up and tears rolling down, both eyes, man. – I think there might be something else you’re accessing. – Well I mean it made me think of loved ones I’ve lost– – Okay there you go. – And I thought about it specifically and so, I listened to the whole song and cried like a baby. – Well ironically– – And I didn’t even wipe the tears away. It was, you know what, let ’em fall. – Ironically and fittingly, I feel like there’s two sides of this coin, there’s the leaning into it. – Yeah. – And then there’s the coming out of it and I think that I’ve got something for coming out of it. – Okay great. – You know a little bit about this so one thing I’ll say, I think the first thing I thought when I looked at this question was, I think that I, and again, I talk about this, I feel like I’m talking about the fact that I go to therapy every single podcast at this point so sorry if that’s annoying to you, but I think traditionally my answer to this would be like, hmm, sad. What is that? (chuckles) You know what I’m saying, because I know that I do get sad but I tend to be so in my head– – Right. – That I think that, I transmute my emotion of sadness into other things like anger probably or yelling at the kids or something because I don’t process and actually like you said, lean into the sadness and let it run its course because I do think that sadness is a part of a human condition and something that we should not run from. But assuming that you let it run its course, music I think is a way to bring you out of it. Now, I wanna talk to you about a guy named Dr. Fun. (both chuckle) And there’s probably a rapper out there named Dr. Fun and other people named Dr. Fun so you may not get this guy if you just Google Dr. Fun, so our good friends Lance and Lacey who, of Beard and Lady. If you’re a real Mythical Beast, you know about Lance and Lacey and Beard and Lady. They make the lip balm and beard oil and pomade. Great friends back in North Carolina and they’re just both crazy in the best possible way. Lance and Lacey are just, they’re into interesting stuff and they’ll just start telling you about something that happened and there was somebody they know and it’s gonna be interesting. – They’re enthusiastically open and it’s not, it’s always refreshing to have those people in your life. – Yeah, and Lance will just text me out of the blue. He texted me recently and he said, “I think that you’re now ready for Dr. Fun.” (laughs) Just like okay. And then he just sends me– – He’s been sitting on a Dr. Fun for awhile. – He sends me a Facebook video of this guy, his name is Tim McGinnis. That’s M-C-G-I-N-N-I-S. AKA Dr. Fun. Now Lance knows this guy– – Now when you say AKA Dr. Fun I just wanna clarify that his YouTube channel is Tim McGinnis, AKA Dr. Fun. All of that. – Yes, that’s it. And this guy, Lance knew him, Lance lived out here in California for awhile, before we ever did. In fact when we met him in North Carolina, he was moving back from Pasadena and he knew this guy in Pasadena, I don’t know exactly how they got to know each other but he said, “I knew this guy “when I lived in California “and he’s just this super enthusiastic guy “who makes all this original music that is designed “to focus your mood in the right direction.” And– – But you– – He said, “And one time he recorded my mouth trumpet “and incorporated it into a song.” Just to give you an idea the kinda guy that Dr. Fun is, he knows that you can do the mouth trumpet and Lance can do a mean mouth trumpet. – I can do a mean mouth trumpet. – Yeah. – I wanna, me and Lance should get into– – You could be in a Dr. Fun song. – Mouth trumpet off. – So anyway, so what Dr. Fun, Dr. Fun– – Now it sounds like you’re saying two things which I don’t think are true and that’s one, that he is like some sort of therapist that two, is residing in Pasadena, California. – No no at this point, Dr. Fun, Dr. Fun met a lady and they– – Mrs. Fun? – They moved to Cabo San Lucas where, you know, we’ve been down to Cabo. In fact, speaking of watermelons on shirts. – Yeah. – I see what you’re doing there. – A Mythical Beast gave me this shirt on tour. Might have given it to you but it’s too small. – They moved to Cabo and I don’t know what he does besides, he has this thing on Facebook that he calls The Dr. Fun Institute For Intentional Thought Transformation. (chuckles) And as far as I can tell, one of the main tenants of The Institute For Intentional Thought Transformation is to sing these songs that are almost like mantras to get you in the right mood. And listen, he’ll go on the rooftop of his home in Cabo San Lucas and just, this is an 18 minute video and he’s just going through, he’s just singing these songs, making them up on the spot or accessing them from his library. I don’t know anything else about Dr. Fun. – What do you mean his library? Like his brain library. – His brain library. – So before you play it, I just wanna clarify that this is just a dude with, he looks like he could be ex-military. He’s got close cropped hair. He’s wearing a black t-shirt, probably shorts, probably bare foot. He’s not in a clinical environment. He’s filming himself on an iPhone vertically in vlog format and it’s very extemporaneous. – And let me just tell you– – It’s not planned. – That these songs have been in my head and I have found myself when my, I’m not kidding you, when I start thinking things or whatever, I’m like I feel a little bit down, a Dr. Fun song comes into my mind and I just start singing it and it does the trick. – You using his system? ♪ Appreciation is my super power ♪ ♪ Appreciation got me feeling high ♪ ♪ Appreciation is my super power ♪ ♪ Appreciation gives me wings to fly ♪ ♪ One more time ♪ – Okay so he said one more time and then– – He had already said one more time. – So I’m just gonna go to– – How many times does he say one more time? – He’ll look off into the distance and then another one will come out. – [Dr. Fun] Look at these aloes, it’s true. – He finds joy in all the things around him. Here’s another one. ♪ Focus focus focus ♪ ♪ On feeling good right now ♪ ♪ I find the best feeling thought for feeling good right now ♪ ♪ One more time ♪ (Rhett laughs excitedly) – One more time. – I find the best feeling thought for– – Feeling good right now. – I focus focus focus on feeling good right now. – [Rhett] Here’s more. ♪ Breathe, relax ♪ ♪ And let the magic happen ♪ ♪ It’s swirlin’ all around you ♪ ♪ Just relax and let it flow ♪ ♪ I said ♪ – That one didn’t rhyme and it didn’t need to. – And I’m just gonna go– ♪ It’s swirlin’ all around you ♪ ♪ Just relax and let it flow ♪ – I’m just going to a random spot, 18 minutes. He does this like every other day. – [Dr. Fun] Ready? ♪ There’s no need to wait or hesitate ♪ – Got a drum. ♪ I’m gonna feel good right now ♪ ♪ There’s no need to wait or hesitate ♪ ♪ I’m gonna feel good right now ♪ ♪ There’s no need to wait or hesitate ♪ ♪ I’m gonna feel good right now ♪ ♪ There’s no need to wait or hesitate ♪ ♪ I’m gonna feel good right now ♪ ♪ You know I’m gonna feel good right now ♪ ♪ You know I’m feeling pretty God darn good right now ♪ (Rhett laughs) – Woo! – I mean– – And how many views does this have? – 11. – 11 views, guys. – I think it’s about to have more. – 11 views. – That’s my theory. – Dr. Fun is giving you the musical mantras that you need on the back side of sadness. – There’s another song where he’s like, he’s walking down the streets in Cabo San Lucas and he’s doing this head thing and he’s like ♪ Shift, shift, shift my perspective ’til I’m feeling good ♪ ♪ I’m gonna shift, shift, shift my perspective ♪ ♪ ‘Til I’m feeling good ♪ And then I find myself singing this song. I’m gonna shift, shift, shift my perspective ’til I’m feeling good. – I bet it works. – It does work, it’s magic! Dr. Fun is magic because there’s just, you know, it’s scientifically proven that just smiling makes you feel better, right? Just the act of smiling, even if it’s a forced smile, your body begins to do the things emotionally that is associated with a smile. And Dr. Fun has got this institute, man. I mean again it’s The Dr. Fun Institute For Intentional Thought Transformation. He’s intentional about his thought transformation. He uses these songs. – What is the institute? – It’s him, he is an institution, man. (both laugh) – Wow, but you’re telling me that Lance knew this guy in person, like in the flesh in Pasadena and mouth trumpeted with him? – First of all, you know Lance and Lacey. They meet in person like Dr. Fun, they’re on it. You know what I’m saying, there’s a lot of people who might be like, this guy, this dude’s a little nuts, man. – Keep a distance. – He’s movin’ to Cabo, he’s singin’ songs all the time. But Lance and Lacey understand that this guy figured something out. Not only is he just interesting and entertaining, but there’s something going on there. – He’s manifesting inner happiness through musical mantra. – Yes. And anyway– – And occasionally a mouth trumpet apparently. – Yeah I think, I don’t know, again, I’m just scratching the surface of the Dr. Fun world, I don’t know how far it goes. – A lot of videos? – Yeah, he’s been making videos for like seven years on YouTube, he’s got his Facebook deal. – He’s got a deal with Facebook? – (chuckles) He’s got a deal with Mark Zuckerberg himself. – Wow. – He’s got a Facebook page where he does the same thing and he seems like he’s got his– – Crazy. – His audience which is not super large but is what he needs to keep going, and anyway, Dr. Fun, there’s a rec. – Kristian Drake asks, what did I see in the sky yesterday morning? Then posts a photo from the phone. What you saw was three light sources. Three sources of light, connect the dots, form a triangle. That’s what you saw. – So you don’t think it was anything suspicious or alien? – Well we just don’t have a lot to go on here. – It is just a still image for us. If you’re not watching this podcast, you don’t even see it. So probably nothing, Kristian. Christie Byers asks, what’s something that is popular right now but in five in 10 years, everyone will look back on and be embarrassed about? – Five years is not a long time to be embarrassed, so I’m thinking more 10 years, like a full decade. Do you have something? – I have something that’s not a, it’s not like a fashion– – That’s good, ’cause you– – Accessory. – Immediately think fashion, I’m like, I think my kids will be embarrassed wearing sweat pants everywhere. – Just like we were. You look at that picture of us at Pizza Inn– – We’re embarrassed– – For my birthday party. – [Link] Why you wearing sweat pants for a birthday party? – And not only did we have– – Are you sick? – It wasn’t that we (chuckles) had sweat pants on. We had on a sweat suit that didn’t have a name, it was just like, no logos. – Turns out we were ahead of our time. – It was like just a gray sweat, you had a gray sweatshirt and gray sweatpants on, matching. And Brooks Lee had on, it was all red or something. And we didn’t think he was cool, it was just comfortable. – Yeah it worked. – Are you sick? (chuckles) Yeah, I was thinking, I honestly think that, you know how you go in any society situation at this point, any public place and everyone’s looking at their phone. – Yeah. – I choose to believe that it’s a phase. – I like this. – I choose to believe that it is a phase and I choose to believe that– – I didn’t know you had faith in humanity like this though. – I don’t have faith in humanity but– – Then how on earth do you think we’re gonna get out of our phones. – ‘Cause I think that first of all, we’re gonna continue to learn all the, first of all, speaking of Dr. Fun and feeling happy and shifting your perspective, shifting your face down into your phone and doing the thing that we all do which is you go from your favorite app to your next favorite app to your next favorite app and then rinse and repeat and you kinda just find yourself, sometimes I just find myself Instagram, Twitter, Reddit. Whatever. – Yeah just– – And I’m just like what, I’m like standing at the bottom of my stairs in my house just standing there in the dark, just like (mumbling nonsense). And I know I’m not alone, and it’s just sad. – What, someone’s standing there watching? – Yeah there’s a ghost. It’s sad, it’s unnecessary, it’s not good for your mind, it’s not good for your sleep patterns, it’s not good for your neck, it’s not good for your eyes. And I think eventually– – But by the way I do think that when I die, I wanna see a highlight reel of just all the times I just was standing in the stupor looking at my phone. I think that’s your point. – Yeah and I think that we’re going to, I think a lot of people are realizing, kinda waking up to the fact that this is all they do. They stare at their hand, their handheld device. But first of all, I think that some things are gonna change like I mean, distant, not so near future but you know– – I think they’ll be a– – First of all, the interesting thing is, you know how AirPods were really dorky and now it’s like a status symbol and like all the kids want them. It was like, oh looks like cigarette butts coming out of your ear but now it’s like, no Dad, I gotta get some AidPods. The same thing will happen with displays in glasses. – Right. – It’s gonna happen. It makes so much more sense. There’s gonna be a second wave of Google Glass or something like that that doesn’t make you look like a dweeb and then everybody’s gonna have it. And then there will be a period of time where people are standing there in the days and they’re not looking at anything ’cause they’re looking in their fricking display in their eyes but I just feel like we’re gonna get to a place where– – A cultural renaissance of wellness. – I think we have to, and you know me, I’m all about the future, futurology, the technology and the fusion, the human… I was gonna say human animal hybrids. (chuckles) – Oh gosh. – The trans-humanism. I think all that’s coming but I think that it can’t come at the expense of our own health and I think that somebody, somewhere along the line, like our kids are gonna like wake up at some point– – I think if you’re saying that education, like, there’ll be education for kids to protect them and they’ll be an infrastructure of societal positive pressure towards wellness. – Not just wellness. – I mean that’s a hopeful view. I am hopeful. – But that does happen. What happens is we replace our vices. V-I-C-E, with other vices. So they’ll be something like everybody’s staring into their phone and then we’ll realize we shouldn’t do that, it’s just like, okay, back when we were in growing up it’s like kids smoked all the time. – Yeah. – Now kids vape all the time and they think, in the same way that, not us, but back in the 40s they thought that smoking was okay for you and now all these people are like, vaping’s not bad. Vaping is bad for you. It is bad for you and they’re discovering more and more every day that it’s bad for you. You shouldn’t be doing it. It’s not a safe alternative to cigarettes. And then something else, something else will replace it. So I’m just thinking we’ll look back on this moment in time in which we had these handheld, this idea of a smartphone is so new culturally. 10 years ago they were just being introduced, right, and it was just becoming a part of everybody’s life. We’re a decade into this experiment and we’re not doing well. And I think that we’re gonna, it might take another 10 years but I think that we’re gonna look back and be like, man, in every picture everybody’s looking at their phones. Not cool. I hope. – I like leaving that hopeful note as our last answer. ‘Cause I got a rec to give. – Okay, all right, I’m down. – I thought that I would not give a music-related recommendation because I, you know, you kinda told me I was only giving music recommendations and I’m like hey, you know what, I got other things I can recommend. Like that Diamond Rio One More Day song, I mean, if you wanna have a meditative sad experience and you can handle that mid 90s country. – That’s a big hurdle for a lot of people to overcome though. – You might deem it schmaltzy. That’s not my Recs in Effect. ♪ Check baby check baby, one two three four ♪ I’m gonna give you a thread on Reddit to follow. – Oh, nice. – Holla. From puppy to dog. – Oh, yes. – You seen this? – No, but I can imagine what it is. – You can imagine what it is. – Side by side, right? – You got side by side photos. Lots of times recreating the photo of when you got your puppy. Now you got a big dog sitting in your lap. – And the bigger the breed, the better the change. – Yeah, man. And it’s… I don’t know, there’s this, it’s obviously very cute, it’s very tender. But there is a tinge of sadness associated with it because it captures the passage of time and how it’s accelerated in the life of a dog. You know, as much as I love Jade, I can’t separate my love from Jade with the knowledge that she’s gonna pass. Much more likely before I will. I hope so, I hope she dies before me. – Yeah. – I mean that’s a weird thing to say. – But you should, you should hope that. – Jade, I hope you die before me. – It seems like a sad thing to say. It seems mean almost but– – So I’m making a recommendation that if you want, I mean there’s a tinge of sadness but there’s so much cute and happiness involved that it’s worth it. – The funny thing is– – From puppy to dog. – The funny thing is is that Jade would not be a very exciting puppy to dog because she looks like the day that you adopted her. – She’s a lot smaller, you know what, I’ll try to find in post a puppy to dog. I’ll try to do that on my, shout out on my Instagram. – She was like a third of that size? – LinkLamont. She was really little, yeah. – She was almost like hand-sized, wasn’t she? – Yeah. I mean, at least in this one picture. The first picture we, I don’t know if I, I’ll have to see if I can find a good picture that I’m in ’cause you need to have a sense of scale. The ones I’m thinking of don’t have a sense of scale, it’s just her. – Yeah I remember– – We’ll see. – We took Barbara to a dog park and she was tripping over the grass, I do remember that. She was that little. So let’s both try to recreate. Let’s recreate a puppy to dog moment and then we were gonna add it to the thread or we just gonna add it to the world of Mythicality? – Well my account is like a– – You ever posted anything to Reddit? – My account’s a secret account so I haven’t created like a, I don’t know, I didn’t know what Reddit was and I didn’t know how I was gonna interact with it so I just made up an account on the spot. So I haven’t, it’s not public and it’s not findable I don’t think. And if you did find it, I don’t think you’d– – You’d be uninterested. Okay, that’s another Ear Biscuit. Again, we don’t always do the AMAs. This is something that we’ve done every couple months or so. Let us know what you think about the AMA format. I have fun, I feel like we go down a lot of different paths, talk about a lot of different things. – Yeah. – Never know what you’re gonna get. – Yeah. – I’d like to do more but only if you guys want more. So let us know what you think about the AMA format. #EarBiscuits. We do search that, we search it up. – Yeah we do. – We search it down. – All right thanks for hanging out with us. Thanks for telling people about Ear Biscuits and recommending this podcast as well as reviewing it on iTunes. Apparently that’s still a thing. Review it up. – Make some stars. – We’ll talk at you next week on the back side of our vacations. – Oh yeah. – [Link] To watch more Ear Biscuits, click on the playlist on the right. – [Rhett] To watch the previous episode of Ear Biscuits, click on the playlist to the left. – [Link] And don’t forget to click on the circular icon to subscribe. – [Rhett] If you prefer to listen to this podcast, it’s available on all your favorite podcast platforms. Thanks for being your Mythical best. (electronic music)

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