what’s your love language and what does that say about you let’s talk about that good mythical morning almost added a new word what was the what would that word have been I don’t know we got love for y’all yeah so much love for making this a part of your daily routine that I wanted to be like much loved that what you did speaking of love Rhett I’m not going to keep using this voice like a late-night DJ on a love station I’m gonna use my normal voice so I want to annoy you okay love languages today you’re going to switch to that voice today what I’m going to share with you could potentially I’m going to use that voice either what I’m going to share with you could change your life or you really don’t get your expectations too high but this could change your relationships in future relationships okay change them do it back in the mid 90s there was a book called written called the five love languages and this I remember this book being popular by the time that we were getting married to our respective one yes I like I you that subtle clarification that were married two wives yeah yeah interesting I have mine you have yeah I read the five love languages and it’s a great book I think there’s some insight it’s gonna be fun to talk about but that we ever get to the idea is that there are five different ways that you experience and express love now this may be this is one way of seeing love and experiencing love but it’s proven to be a very effective way of thinking about the way that you experience love and receive love and once you figure out what your love language is you usually have either one that’s a lot stronger than the others or maybe two that are stronger than the others then what it helps you do is it helps the person that you’re in a relationship with know how to best express love to you and vice versa how you can love the person your loved one better because a lot of times what people do is they have a they have their love language the way that they like to receive love and they like to express that to the person they’re in a relationship with and that might not be the way that that person wants love express to them and then you end up getting into problems breaking up and let me also say that this can apply to just friendships in all relationships this is how you love people okay so I’m going to go through the five love languages and I’m going to tell you how you you you see which one’s resonate with you but then I could tell you more definitive way to figure out what your love languages words of affirmation some people like to experience love through words of affirmation these are verbal compliments or words of appreciation these people love unsolicited compliments to my wife hey baby I like your boots yep yep I still go back to that one does she respond well to that yeah she likes words that for me haven’t seen her in he’s not like does she have boots well I mean I have to wait for her to wear boots but when she does I say I like your boots like somebody like snakeskin well it was just an example she doesn’t wear boots but yeah it was an example okay yeah or it could just be letting someone know what you appreciate about them there are some people when you say something about them to them about how you appreciate them or something that you appreciate about them they just feel cherished and loved is that you maybe it is quality time this is pretty easy to understand these people like to spend time with the person that they love like hey baby let’s go out on a date and I want you to wear those boots yeah but it isn’t just time together so some people a lot of times people are like what do you mean we’ve been watching TV together all night we’ve been right next to each other know people who can net when you connect then that they want to be listened to this is the kind of person that when you speak to them you want some they want some reciprocation they want some confirmation that you’re listening you’re processing yeah you know so if you say something to me I’m like I like your boots but I’m hanging on your every word I’m like my wife is great at this she’s you know she can listen to people I might as well have eyes tattooed on my eyelids oh really kind of blank I’m not good I’m not good at reciprocal I do things but I’m much more interested in who I’m doing it with than just doing the thing so if I’m going to go hiking I’d rather go hiking with someone that I want to spend time with receiving gifts this seems a little bit weird maybe but these people they don’t just want gifts but they like to love thoughtfulness and effort behind gifts like hey baby I I got you some boob gush you some boots I got you some snakeskin boots because I know how you like snakes but you weren’t expecting it so it’s the thoughtfulness of the gift when you give this person something and it might be it’s not always an object but when you give them something that expresses it you’ve been thinking about who they are as a person that means the world to them the object resonates because they can tell the rationale behind it acts of service doing stuff that makes life easier hey maybe I’ll polished your boots yes and a lot of times it’s not things done at their request you know it’s not like here’s your honey-do list do these things for me it’s like you get home and you’ve polished Christy’s boots yeah the boots are really working in this I can carry the boots through all this I’m trying to UM if you polished her boots and it was something that a she wanted you to do she didn’t really want to do it and you unsolicited went and polish the boots and you did a good job in you’re like here’s your polish boots baby that means the world to her if acts of services are love language physical touch now we’re getting to some good stuff and I’m not talking physical intimacy I’m talking physical affection so this is the kind of thing that if you just kind of yet you you touch the shoulder or you touch a face about to kick you with my boot um the boots really good yeah that’s yeah you try to work the boot in and this is now I know that this is my wife’s love language she likes to be like Joanie when you’re hanging out she’ll put her arm like in your arm it’s like an instinctive thing for the for her yes PDA is is is a big thing for not making out in public but just like hey for walking next to each other can we have our arms around each other can’t we be holding hands that means the world to her or just simply getting home and just giving her giving her hug or touching her touching her face like this emphasis on her face yeah well but you’re the only face I’ve got right now I can’t do it a mile well I get it when you tell me the interesting thing is you can go online you can take the test which we both took yeah and you can kind of know Lincoln notch on it you can definitely know what your love language right they ask you a series of questions and then you kind of zero down on how you rank in these five so what we did is linked and I went and we took the test and we have our results and now we’re gonna look at you so you want me to share mine first yeah what I’m Stu having read the book I kind of knew what mine where I was curious if they changed in like ten years right and they really didn’t my first one with a score of 11 was words of affirmation and then kind of a distant second was quality time and that everything else is pretty low acts of service then physical touch receiving gets very low to me because I feel guilty when someone spends my my how much money a you know I start to overthink gifts so that goes really low from me but I like it when somebody says I like your boots and that’s why I wear boots all the time well and unbelievably my number one was your last one hmm receiving gifts is my top score with a score of nine but words of affirmation right there next to it it could have gone either way but receiving gifts is my number one and as you can see physical touch is number three which is my wife’s highest one so that is a sticking point violation I asked Christy was here what is your love language she was like all of them I was like that’s not fair she was like well maybe not physical touch I’m like even less fair well here’s what I’ve done for you link and hopefully you you’re gonna reciprocate this because what I’ve done is I knew that you prepare something you took the test and I saw that you had scored high in words of affirmation like I said this can apply to friendships too we spent a lot of time together I think we need to have a functioning relationship and so what I’m gonna do shanira I am going to I’ve taken the time to really think about some compliments some words of affirmation and I’m going to give those to you right now okay perfect link you have a lot of really cool t-shirts with a lot of cool graphics on them thank you link sometimes I’m blown away at how quickly you can grow a mustache you should enter a contest or something thanks I should I should look into that link you’re really good at backing a car into a parking space you should enter a contest or something thanks for noticing and finally it’s true really I’m pretty good at that link remember you’re your dog Tucker when you were a kid yes it’s a cool dog he died he was a great dog we buried him thanks for bringing that one out yeah I kinda had to go to your dog I ran out of stuff I had to go to your Chuck yeah yeah pretty reteam when you have to go to a dead dog is that the last one yeah all right all right I got a gift for you here oh how thoughtful man well yet I mean I had a Christmas stocking laying around it’s not timely but you’ll love it hahaha yeah it’s strategically place your hand over the a it’s a Christmas baby it’s one of the devil babies man where’s the there’s two of these I’m keeping the other one the other one’s mine you can have that one okay now fond of it totally appreciate the thought you’re welcome you’ve been equipped to love yourself and love the people that you love better question mark let us know what your love languages in the comments below you know what time it is hello I’m Polly and I’m from a little town called fleet in the south of Hampshire England it’s time to spin the wheel of mythicality it’s Friday we’re releasing another episode of our podcast ear biscuits this week special guest Tom sky now I’m excited about this one make sure you listen to it easily one of the maybe the most poignant episodes and very thought-provoking click through to good mythical more where we discuss the ramifications of love languages on our personal love lives porta-potty bathroom inspectors hey Henry are you bringing him again let’s bring your kid to work day here we go oh look at that Bobby look at that oh look in there look in there but this is what we do tell him tell him tell him George step one give it a good sniff on a scale of one to ten I would give this uh a little disappointing I give it a four of smell all worse uh then we rate graffiti just keep looking Bobby don’t look away why does that graffiti say over there for a good time don’t look at that Bobby she could she came home last night I swept the floor oh she’s like time for some quality time yeah