how many questions does it take to fall in love 36 let’s talk about that good mythical morning we would love for you to make us a part of your daily routine hey speaking of love I love that love is in the air Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and there this is at hours today after watching this tomorrow that’s true or it’s a year from now – a day after watching it they need to go on all day and do that yeah but people are thinking about love they’re thinking about relationships and there is this idea that there’s one true love out there for you to find you know what science is about to prove you wrong it ain’t about the person it’s about the process no you didn’t say that yes I did let me tell you there’s not very romantic Rhett recent New York Times article by a woman named Mandy Lin I’m gonna say Cutrone even though it might be Kathryn where I don’t know mines of the beverage uh she is a she’s at University of British Columbia and Vancouver she uncovered this study that was done about 20 years ago by a psychologist named Arthur Aaron this guy devised an experiment that literally made people fall in love in a lab hmm now this guy discovered that that sounds romance essentially yeah this is just listen on that there are different variables involved in the process of falling in love and they essentially involved sustained escalating reciprocal personalistic self-disclosure of course okay I knew all those that top Amazo if you think about what I just said basically that means becoming having more and more interpersonal closeness in self-disclosure with a person over time and this usually happens that escalates and reciprocate so it’s going both ways and this happens naturally right it happens naturally as you’re getting to know someone but he said if these factors are what determines if someone falls in love can I create an environment where in an accelerated pace two strangers can fall in love and you create an experiment where in 90 minutes people ask each other a series of 36 questions and then after asking these questions to one another they stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes straight really and it turns out that it works and at least one of the couples involved in the experiment fell in love got married six months later and invited everyone else who was a participant in the study to the wedding now the interesting story right but it kind of was just where are they name it well I’m not gonna talk about that because that was a study that was done in the past of that woman Mandy she put she unearthed it huh she had there was a guy that was an acquaintance that she saw at her climbing gym apparently there’s a climbing gym at this university so she’s looking at his backside all day yes and she’s also following this guy on Instagram so she’s kind of stalking his rock climbing backside on Instagram checking him out a little bit but they’re hanging out and she’s telling on a rock nope I don’t know if they were the gym okay she’s telling him about this study that was done and he was like let’s do it hmm so they’re at a bar she brings up the thirty-six questions on the phone they go through the thirty-six questions it takes a little bit longer than 90 minutes really in person were they talking on the phone the questions were on the phone oh they were in person good that’s key because if they followed up they said okay they ask the questions and they were like okay we’re going to do this thing we stare in each other’s eyes for four minutes and he was like let’s go to this bridge they went to the bridge they didn’t do it in the middle of the bar and let me guess they fell in love now they’re in love really they’re in love now okay so are these questions magical no they’re scientific we’re going to talk about some of the questions but I want to just one observation this study found the original study found that participants propensity to fall in love had little to do with initial impressions in other words your initial impression of this person as they came from the other side of the lab and sat down and looked at them love at first sight not really didn’t really matter whether or not you thought this is the kind of person that would be compatible with or that I’m attracted to or that I think I will fall in love with it was the process of this self disclosure over time in an accelerated pace which kind of explains the fact that people who are with each other in certain environments over a certain period of time tend to fall in love even if they’re an unlikely pair but what we’re going to do is we’re going to first of all we’re linking to the 36 questions and then we’ll give you some advice of how you can use these thirty-six questions to potentially fall in love this Valentine’s Day or any day we’re not going to ask these questions to each other because we’re happily married to women and we’ve stared each other in the face in a park awkwardly for a previous video and it nothing happened it didn’t do anything for me it’s that make people feel awkward I don’t need to do it again what we’re going to do is we’re going to go through some of these questions I want you to think about your answer because this is an opportunity for us to fall in love more in love with you the mythical beast okay this could get a little bit awkward and maybe we’ll stare in your eyes for four minutes at the end of this or maybe not just think that we did let’s go through some of these questions and give your honest answer sorry the question in my eye Lynch love and also if your answers to these questions suck you could just use some of them got it given you I don’t know what just happened over there given the choice of anyone in the world I love out of my eyeball whom would you want as a dinner guest anyone in the world link uh Gary Busey have you seen his Amazon fire ads the dude is when I eat with that man yeah I’m pretty seen his mouth I’m pretty fascinated have you seen his face it’s like we see if you heard what he says yeah I might want to like party with him like watch amp watch Amazon Prime with it Amazon firewood he talks to his remote and it understands him I would know what else does I would say I would get one of those dudes from a one of those Amazon tribes that hasn’t seen anyone both Amazon but different kind yeah yeah boy that’s what I’m thinking yes and I would like take him to the sizzler the sizzler just thinking cuz he would blow his mind he’s now he’s run around Gregg trying to you know kill animals is foraging and I’m taking him to the sizzler I don’t know it’s not about me getting something it’s about watching someone experience something next question I’m sure he could show you plenty too you were in it if you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a thirty year old for the last 60 years of your life which would you want so you’re going to live to 90 but you can have the mind or body of a 30 year old okay just a side observation this is kind of mind wrenching but I could see how in it like a date setting maybe not in a clinic like his clinic not like the Health Department you could you can start to connect with somebody don’t mean people – hey you just you just go to your local clinic and start asking these 36 questions I think I would want to I mean you see there’s a risk if you’re if you get old but you have like a nice 30 year old body because that your mind may go and it doesn’t even matter so the I think the the less risky proposition is to keep your mind in full tact and your body can kind of waste away I recently joined a gym and there’s a lot of dudes in there that are in shape but not real smart and they seem like they’re having a good time so I mean I’m just thinking you know just be a meathead for like the last 10 20 years of your life they’re having a good time man body of a 90 year old you don’t want that trust me and do you have a secret hunch about how you will die oh no like if I had a hunch I would probably investigate it and tell people’s make sure one going to happen I think I’m gonna die on this show you know we keep escalating the ridiculousness of the things that we’re eating okay one of these days it’s just we’re gonna have a reaction and it’s just gonna that’s gonna be the last show show 6,001 well if I had to choose that’s a good way to go I mean document and get some views out of if a crystal – I mean if a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself your life the future or anything else what would you want to know I would want to know um when I was going to die like I don’t want to know how I’m gonna die but I do want to know when I’m gonna die for just like planning purposes it would be nice to know that would be horrible well I mean it puts everything in perspective like we should have that perspective anyway but it kind of forces it all right I’ve got 4221 days left how many years is that I want to know what coffee makes me poop you can you shall II don’t know they don’t know man okay and this is a well in on a personal one this is just a taste yeah then you can go look at the questions yourself when did you last cry in front of another person or by yourself and by yourself Just Answer one I don’t cry as much as I wish I would um I can’t take care of that but that looks up my dad the same cry dr. Kurt after I feel like I should be more in touch with my emotions but in the lego movie when when the in the Hydra movie when bad cop got his good cop face taken care of wiped off oh you cry yeah and then when I when mr. business what’s his name Lord business Lord business was a real was a real dad I didn’t cry at that part though but I almost did I cried at Cirque de Soleil now I’ll tell you about like trapeze say about that good movie thank you made a little bit okay I come out my nose that was how ridiculous that okay what does this mean for you the you have two options if there’s someone that you like you can take these 36 questions and this study and do what this woman did and say hey there’s these 36 questions let’s give it a try on a date let’s just try this out like be upfront about it in front about it and I mean if you’re fall in love but it really puts your intentions out there you better be ready I’m in I’m in for love I’m in for like a real relationship where you connect yeah and that that’s coming on pretty strong so you got a well that’s a test another in the second alternative the alternative that is you could just do this subversively so you could just work these 36 questions into one date and then work a period of time we just like stare into each other’s eyes and you have to maybe you put something weird on your face so she’ll look back because you’re like in the Olive Garden eating like breadsticks and you’re like if you could know when you would be gonna die would you alright mom wife and I talk about as well on our first couple of days we did it now we’re in love so it does finally yeah after all these years all right do you want to fall in love are you gonna use these you have the power they’re in the different questions wield them at your own risk thanks for liking and commenting on this video you know what time it is hi I’m Seth this is Heidi and it’s time to spin the wheel make sure you check out our podcast ear biscuits this week’s special guest DeStorm and look for our song biscuit tomorrow morning on this channel that’s right every Friday is an ear biscuit every Saturday morning is a song visit click through to good mythical more when we go fishing we’re gonna talk about more of these questions to fall in love questions let’s discuss them with you contemplating fake plants you know the thing about fake glance is they look real yeah it looks so real man I find myself still wanting to water should I not do that sometimes are so convincing that wait for the fruit you know what I don’t think the plants I have are fake I think they’re real I think they’re after my soul yes my wife is capable of dating and finding a replacement husband and or just a different husband so you never have to be replaced it’s just a little glimpse of how much of a control freak you are that you want to control the rest of your wife’s life with in your absence